Anatomy of Frustration: One of my Stories
For many who may not have read my profile yet, I am a Pastor of a growing church located in Brussels Belgium. As a Pastor, I became really frustrated with the music ministry of our church, no matter the personal and financial investments nothing seems to be moving in the right direction as it were. The musicians were not there when needed and I had spoken to them on several occasions with little or no changes at all.
I thought to myself you are so frustrated with these folks that your effect on them will become negative if you don’t do something about that frustration. Rather than getting all irritated and angry, yelling, nagging, saying and doing things we are not suppose to like we all do when we are frustrated and overwhelmed, I made a choice to transform that energy into something more productive and you too can.
This line of thought help me see the situation as an opportunity to acquire a skill that I did not possess initially and that was to learn one of the instruments. I decided to learn how to play on the keyboard and today I can play not as a professional but at least I can fill in when our pianist or keyboardist is not available and as well play and enjoy the Lord with my daughters as worship at home.
You see transforming frustration into opportunities and the power to succeed is all about the choices we make. We may choose to respond positively or negatively when we are frustrated, whichever route you decide to take, there are consequences. Despite the fact that my situation may not exactly look alike but you will still have to make choices either to respond positively or negatively. You must not allow the seeds of discouragement, anger and despair be sown in the soil of your heart because it will produce more of frustration.
4/10/2008 11:10:00 AM | Labels: disappointment, frustration effect, positive mental attitude | 0 Comments
Anatomy of Frustration: What is Frustration
1/03/2008 11:41:00 PM | Labels: anatomy, annoyance, disappointment, discomfort, frustration | 0 Comments
Anatomy of Frustration: Introduction
This blog is about this emotional disposition that we are all susceptible to and my main objective is to explore the anatomy of frustration and give some nuggets on how to transform frustration into opportunities and unlock the power to succeed.
Frustration is a phenomenon that we have to deal with on a daily basis. The burdens of work, family, unforeseen crises, unmet expectations combine to produce tangled loops of frustration in our lives. While there are certain things we can do to make life run more smoothly, we must understand that frustration is inevitable as we progress through life. Frustration is not only just an inevitable dilemma, but also useful in our life pursuits. However, what we chose to do or not to do in moments of frustration is what will determine our ability to take action on what is necessary for us to achieve our expectations or desires and our inability to produce our desired outcome.
Our initial reaction to frustration is to yield to it and its negative consequences without taking action in the direction of our anticipated outcome. We also resist or ignore it altogether, putting up a protective defense and confront it as an enemy with which we feel we must do battle. The yielding, resisting, partially or completely ignoring this emotion and others like it is negative and can produce only negative results, we will find ourselves producing more frustration, anxiety, stress and fear than opportunities and productivity.
1/02/2008 04:52:00 PM | Labels: anger, anxiety, disappointment, fear, frustration, richard onebamoi, stress | 0 Comments