Showing posts with label positive mental attitude. Show all posts
Showing posts with label positive mental attitude. Show all posts
Anatomy of Frustrarion: Failure Factor
The Law of Human Behavior states, “Sooner or later we will get what we expect.” This law is explicit enough, it suffice to mean that whatever you expect is going to be your reality. For example, if you expect to fail, sooner or later you will fail. Every situation is an education. No one enjoys failing in any endeavor, however, it’s inevitable. Mr. Jobson enrolled to take his driver’s permit test which he performed poorly and this was neither his first nor was it is second test and as a result he is frustrated and disappointed.
The failure to achieve ones desires or expectation can result to frustration and it can affect you in a very remarkable way. However, failure is not reserved for the less privileged or mentally retarded but to all of us. I have since discovered that failure is one of the breakfasts of champions. Individuals who have never failed are individuals who haven’t done anything. It is imperative to understand that failure is not a destination but an event that occurred in pursuit of your goals and objectives. Here is how Rogier Von Oech puts it; Remember, there are two benefits of failure, First, if you do fail, you learn what doesn’t work; and second, the failure gives you an opportunity to try a new approach…. Most people think of success and failure as opposite, but they are actually both products of the same process.
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The failure to achieve ones desires or expectation can result to frustration and it can affect you in a very remarkable way. However, failure is not reserved for the less privileged or mentally retarded but to all of us. I have since discovered that failure is one of the breakfasts of champions. Individuals who have never failed are individuals who haven’t done anything. It is imperative to understand that failure is not a destination but an event that occurred in pursuit of your goals and objectives. Here is how Rogier Von Oech puts it; Remember, there are two benefits of failure, First, if you do fail, you learn what doesn’t work; and second, the failure gives you an opportunity to try a new approach…. Most people think of success and failure as opposite, but they are actually both products of the same process.
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5/20/2008 12:48:00 PM | Labels: failure factor, frustration effect, positive mental attitude | 0 Comments
Anatomy of Frustration: One of my Stories
Allow me to share one of my stories on frustration. First and foremost as humans we are all susceptible to frustrations no one is immune against it. I’m yet to meet anyone who has not experienced some measure of frustration. However, it is not the frustration, object or subject of frustration that should be our focus but how to respond to the events causing the frustration and its effects.
For many who may not have read my profile yet, I am a Pastor of a growing church located in Brussels Belgium. As a Pastor, I became really frustrated with the music ministry of our church, no matter the personal and financial investments nothing seems to be moving in the right direction as it were. The musicians were not there when needed and I had spoken to them on several occasions with little or no changes at all.
I thought to myself you are so frustrated with these folks that your effect on them will become negative if you don’t do something about that frustration. Rather than getting all irritated and angry, yelling, nagging, saying and doing things we are not suppose to like we all do when we are frustrated and overwhelmed, I made a choice to transform that energy into something more productive and you too can.
This line of thought help me see the situation as an opportunity to acquire a skill that I did not possess initially and that was to learn one of the instruments. I decided to learn how to play on the keyboard and today I can play not as a professional but at least I can fill in when our pianist or keyboardist is not available and as well play and enjoy the Lord with my daughters as worship at home.
You see transforming frustration into opportunities and the power to succeed is all about the choices we make. We may choose to respond positively or negatively when we are frustrated, whichever route you decide to take, there are consequences. Despite the fact that my situation may not exactly look alike but you will still have to make choices either to respond positively or negatively. You must not allow the seeds of discouragement, anger and despair be sown in the soil of your heart because it will produce more of frustration.
For many who may not have read my profile yet, I am a Pastor of a growing church located in Brussels Belgium. As a Pastor, I became really frustrated with the music ministry of our church, no matter the personal and financial investments nothing seems to be moving in the right direction as it were. The musicians were not there when needed and I had spoken to them on several occasions with little or no changes at all.
I thought to myself you are so frustrated with these folks that your effect on them will become negative if you don’t do something about that frustration. Rather than getting all irritated and angry, yelling, nagging, saying and doing things we are not suppose to like we all do when we are frustrated and overwhelmed, I made a choice to transform that energy into something more productive and you too can.
This line of thought help me see the situation as an opportunity to acquire a skill that I did not possess initially and that was to learn one of the instruments. I decided to learn how to play on the keyboard and today I can play not as a professional but at least I can fill in when our pianist or keyboardist is not available and as well play and enjoy the Lord with my daughters as worship at home.
You see transforming frustration into opportunities and the power to succeed is all about the choices we make. We may choose to respond positively or negatively when we are frustrated, whichever route you decide to take, there are consequences. Despite the fact that my situation may not exactly look alike but you will still have to make choices either to respond positively or negatively. You must not allow the seeds of discouragement, anger and despair be sown in the soil of your heart because it will produce more of frustration.
4/10/2008 11:10:00 AM | Labels: disappointment, frustration effect, positive mental attitude | 0 Comments
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